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Domestic Abuse

Domestic abuse refers to an incident, or pattern of incidents of violence or abuse, including controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, by someone who is or has been an intimate partner or family member, regardless of gender or sexuality. Domestic abuse is not just about partners – it can relate to all family relationships including forced marriage.

For this type of abuse the age range is extended down to 16. It includes:

  • psychological, physical, sexual, financial, emotional abuse
  • so called ‘honour’ based violence
  • female genital mutilation
  • forced marriage
  • it also includes being a witness to domestic abuse of another person.

Coercive control

Coercive control is now recognised as the behaviour that underpins domestic abuse. It is a pattern of behaviour which seeks to take away the victim’s sense of self, minimising their freedom of action and violating their human rights.

A new offence of coercive and controlling behaviour in intimate and family relationships was introduced in the Serious Crime Act 2015. There is statutory guidance giving more detail.

“The offence closes a gap in the law around patterns of coercive and controlling behaviour during a relationship between intimate partners, former partners who still live together, or family members, sending a clear message that it is wrong to violate the trust of those closest to you, providing better protection to victims experiencing continuous abuse and allowing for earlier identification, intervention and prevention.” (Care Act Guidance section 14.22)

Research in Practice for Adults (RiPfA) has a range of resources to support social workers to put the law into practice, with an open access account.

The Home Office has published Guidance on controlling and coercive behaviour.

There is also a video introduction to coercive control of people with care and support needs.

S42 (safeguarding adults) and domestic abuse

Situations where domestic abuse occurs will not necessarily involve those who have care and support needs, and as a result are unable to protect themselves. Norfolk has well-established domestic abuse services, support and pathways and there are some links to more information below.

However, where the safeguarding duties apply, and a s42 enquiry is taken forward, workers will use the process to focus on the specific needs of that adult at risk, identifying their desired outcomes (Making Safeguarding Personal) while still including advocacy, ensuring multi-agency support (which can include police investigation) and enabling access to specialist domestic abuse support in the same way as the standard domestic abuse pathways.

Research (mainly on women) has shown that domestic abuse has additional impacts on people with care and support needs – for example:

  • Being disabled strongly affects the nature, extent and impact of abuse. Research has shown that people’s impairments are frequently used in the abuse, including humiliation.
  • Many abusers deliberately use and increase dependency on them as a way of asserting and maintaining control; where the abusive person is also the carer, they have considerable power and control as the victim relies on them.
  • Sexual abuse appears to be proportionately more common for disabled than for non-disabled women, perhaps reflecting particular vulnerabilities.
  • Perpetrators often use forms of abuse that exploit, or add to, the abused person’s impairment. (Making the Links, Women’s Aid 2008)

Domestic abuse and older people

Abuse can occur at any age and is often under reported over age 65. Safeguarding often considers ‘carer’s stress’ when incidents occur, and while one-off events do happen, it needs to be explored to see if there are any patterns or history.  Older generations will view marriage and relationships in what we consider quite old-fashioned ways now – think about the vows, “to love, honour and obey”, come what may.  Men went out to work, women stayed at home and were often very dependent on their husbands for many things, especially money.  Today we would consider if this was coercive control.  Both sides will have been used to these roles.

Older victims are less likely to leave the abusive situation, for a wide range of reasons: 

  • love of abuser
  • generational acceptance of the abuse
  • fear of repercussions, or not being believed
  • fear of being institutionalised, losing what independence they do have
  • loss of ability to communicate clearly
  • the responsibility of being a carer or being cared for by an abuser
  • disability or physical frailty
  • fear of financial insecurity
  • leaving treasured possessions and home of a lifetime, pets
  • lack of sense of entitlement
  • responses of family members / adult children

Older people may have been victims for a very long time; they may be dependent on care provided by their abusers; they are more restricted by the impact of age, frailty or disability; in Norfolk we have a lot of older people living in isolated rural areas.

Workers may not recognise domestic abuse in older adults, perhaps seeing the more obvious abuse categories first, e.g. physical abuse, financial abuse, emotional abuse.

The perpetrator may also have care needs – someone with a dementia may hit out at their carer or be verbally abusive.

This applies to men and women – remember to avoid gender bias and stereotyping, women can be the abuser too. Men may find it harder to admit that they are being abused or feel they will not be believed. Carers of any gender can abuse or be abused. Many services supporting victims of domestic abuse are tailored towards women, which can limit the options for men.

Domestic Homicide Reviews

Domestic Homicide Reviews are locally conducted multi-agency reviews of the circumstances in which the death of a person aged 16 or over has, or appears to have, resulted from violence, abuse or neglect by:

  • a person to whom he or she was related, or with whom he or she was or had been in an intimate personal relationship; or,
  • a member of the same household as himself or herself.

NSAB currently publishes Norfolk DHRs on behalf of Norfolk Community Safety Partnership.